Why Children's Lies
When children begin to lie purposely, there may be several reasons:
- •To play with you;
- •Because he thinks it is funny;
- •To gain control of you or a situation;
- •To avoid punishment;
- •To cast blame on someone else;
- •Because of fear or anxiety;
- •To avoid doing something they do not want to do Because of jealousy.
- •Fear. When kids are scared of the consequences of their actions, they often lie to cover up. (Are the rules too strict? Are the limits too tight? Does your child feel free to talk with you?)
- •To protect somebody else.
- •Because she is imaginative and the truth is boring.
- •To avoid an unpleasant task. (“Did you brush your teeth?” “Yes, Dad!”)
- •By mistake. Sometimes lies seem almost involuntary, and a lie just slips out, especially if your child gets caught in a misdeed.
- •For love, for approval, and because kids like to impress people quickly and effectively
- •cover something up, hoping to avoid consequences or punishment
- •explore and experiment with their parents’ responses and reactions
- •exaggerate a story or impress others
- •gain attention, even when they’re aware the listener knows the truth
- •manipulate a situation or set something up – for example, saying to grandma, ‘Mum lets me have lollies before dinner’.
- •Some kids lie because they feel that they are not meeting their parent's expectations. Are you putting too much pressure?
- perform academically, athletically, or in other ways? Are your expectations realistic for a child that age?
- •Sometimes, parental consequences are too harsh. A child may lie to avoid a punishment that he feels is unfair.
- •Children may lie to protect a friend or family member.
- •A child may lie to preserve his self image.
BY :=
Namrata Singh
Child Psychologist
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